I hardwired the nearside one to the offside one, which overcame any programming foibles.
Regarding the confusion with brake lights, i daresay this is an 'official' view, and not necessarily sgould's opinion, but I have a couple of observations here.
Firstly, it's very rare to see brake lights on constantly, which is how you'd see fog lights, and of course you see fog lights for miles, that's what they're designed for, after all.
Secondly, from a selfish personal point, if someone behind me takes my fog lights as brake lights, presumably they'll brake and not hit me!
Malcolm