Personally I'd be more worried about the plasticine chassis coping with extra torque than the gearbox

The 4 speed AW boxes share the same basic mechanicals for the 9-3 and 9-5 but have different gear ratios and control software, both of which will impact on the durability.
If you want to tune the 9-3 then there are without doubt IMO two elements: the chassis and the power output. I've driven a manual 9-3 Sport on stock chassis tuned to ~275hp and it was not very pleasant. The front end squirmed all over the place under acceleration.
In terms of enjoying the car, I'd go for a Viggen rescue kit before any power upgrades. We currently have a 185hp manual 9-3 on stock chassis but with Abbott steering rack clamp. It makes a huge difference (it's t'other half's daily driver and I didn't tell her I'd fitted it, but straight afterwards she asked me what had I done to the car because it felt much better).
To get the most out of a power upgrade with an auto box, I'd be looking to go for a 3" downpipe and higher flow intercooler, plus an Aero Cobra pipe. On my 9-5 I had the cobra pipe then added firstly the exhaust then the intercooler, without making any software mods. Both of them had a similar effect- reduced spool and opened up the top end, so more of the rev range can be effectively used.
Making sure the ATF is changed often will also help protect it.